What Is The Way To A Man’s Heart ?

Everyone knows the age old addage that a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.  Now don’t get me wrong, those ladies who can throw down in the kitchen know that if you can burn in the kitchen it may ignite a fire in a man’s heart.   A good cobbler, or home cooked meal can melt even the most stubborn of men.  Also, many women think that a smoking sex and bomb a va jay jay can lead any horse to water and have him drinking for days.  Who wouldn’t be turned out by a woman who can lay it down in the bedroom?  But while heat in the kitchen and in the sheets may ignite that fire, I don’t think these things are what keep that fire roaring.  

To me, the way to a man’s heart is through his mind.  If you stimulate his mind, the rest of him will follow.  I fully believe that if a man is confused about his feelings toward you or isn’t fully committed you don’t completely capture his mind.  A  confused mind equals an unsure heart.  

How do you stimulate him?  Be yourself, and no one else.  

Easier said than done.  Live YOUR life.  Don’t live for him and don’t coddle him, don’t change to conform to what you think he needs.  Be your strong, sexy independent self and he will recognize that.  But, make sure in all your fist raising and I-N-D-E-P-E-N-T, make sure you let him know you care about his needs, struggles, and dreams.  Be that shoulder, ear, or couch.   Yeah, yeah, I know.  How do you get just the right balance of independent v. ride or die.  That one depends on your own personal situation and no one can dictate that.  

Working an angle and trying to fit yourself to what you think he wants won’t work either.  The easiest way to stimulate his mind is to be yourself.  

 

Show confidence - All men love women who show they are independent and strong. Sure, men like to be taken care of.  But only when they need it. Most men hate it when a woman is around them all the time. So give a man some space. Enough space will bring him closer to you.

 

The one problem with winning a man’s mind is they may mistake your interest in them, genuine affection, as clingy or requiring too much maintenance.  In my mind, the man who hollers about all this isn’t ready and you don’t have his mind.  Let him go, or let loose on that chain.  Let him chase you a little.  I know that is so hard ladies.  Every day we are used to making decisions and setting up our own schedules.  Take a step back, let him breathe, and go do all the things you love about yourself.  If he doesn’t come knocking that fire may not have been there all along.   His loss

Along with confidence – keep your mystery.  Don’t tell all your business, and keep an air of mystique.  YOu have to keep him guessing girl.  If you are completely predictable then he has nothing left to figure out.  Don’t spew your guts….keep some of that to yourself. 

So, in your opinion, what captures a man’s heart?  Food, sex, or mental stimulation?  How do you go about doing it?