Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

 

Screwing Yourself?

Hooking up, and getting it in with random folks you have no real interest in dating is killing relationships.  There I said it.  Start sending me those hate comments right now.  I am sooooooo tired of hearing about everyone having sex and blowing out backs.  Someone is lying or I should have bought stock in Trojan during this recession.  I swear to God if I hear about another jumpoff I may sell my eggs to science. 

Face it,  we live in a sex-saturated society where supposedly the majority of young people are “doing it,” more often than not without “benefit of marriage.” If you listen to any song on the radio or talk to anyone of your friends you being to think everyone is doing it.  You know, sex with no strings attached appears to be what’s hot in the streets…”She’s not my girl, she just lets me hit that.”  ”No, we aren’t in a relationship, but he is my maintenance man.”  When the heck did we start trading our carnal desires for real love like Mary J. sang about?

Men Like Casual Sex More Than Women?

A recent survey notes a difference between the sexes, 42 percent of men report having had had sex on a first date; that drops to 17 percent of women. Additionally, men were  more than twice as likely as women to say it’s acceptable to have casual sex without an emotional relationship — “just doing it for the sex.” (That’s OK with 35 percent of men, compared with 15 percent of women.) But ladies, these men are hooking up with you casually, so someone is lying.

Face it, sex with a stranger or booty call is not that hot (stop lying to yourself)

Random sex is not hot, it is awkward and sooner or later someone catches feelings.  You knew from the first few encounters that you didn’t want to date this person on a serious level.  You knew you couldn’t take them home to meet your parents, they couldn’t string together a complete thought or sentence to save their lives, or their moral compass was as bad as the one they use on LOST. Tragedy.  

So why still screw around especially when the emotional component is missing or you know you cant take them out in public?  Is all that rug burn preventing you from finding Mr. or Mrs. Right? 

Somewhere along the line, casual sex screwed relationships.  Literally. 

So, you messed around with  few guys/girls?  Have you ruined some of yourself for your future partners or have you learned a few things to make you a better person.  I am not sure.  Every encounter, romantic or not, makes you leave a part of yourself behind.  So you left  part of yourself with that dude, what’s his name, from the club, or that girl from Spring Break, or that guy you slept with while your real love interest got themselves together. 

Did anyone stop to think that part of the reason it is taking many of our generation so long to find love is partly due to these random hookups?  

Hook-Ups Screw With Your Emotional Compass

If a person is only focusing on their sexual desires, what kinds of people are they likely to be meeting? People that are very similar to themselves right? People that are looking for self gratification. A meaningful relationship is not built upon the fulfillment of selfish desires, you might as well be building a house on top of quicksand. You won’t truly get to know or appreciate someone unless you keep the emotional sexual aspect out of the relationship for a significant period of time. 

Have you ever noticed that when you start focusing on the hookup or the sex, everything else about the situation crumbles and turns to crap soon after.  It’s because you and your Freudian tail are stuck and fascinated by your new boo’s Va jay jay or magic stick that you forgot they are actually a real person with feelings.  Did you ever stop to think that this person is someone else’s wife or husband.  So, all this foolishness is gonna mess up their relationship and some shrink is gonna map out all your wangage on a whiteboard.  Fail.

All of your phallic fantasies and wet dreams are preventing you from actually getting to know the person, all you can do is bed hop when the sex gets boring.  Why not try learning about a person first then sleep with them.   

Novel concept right?

Do you agree with casual/no commitment sex?

Do you think hookups are killing relationships?

Is true that men agree with casual sex more than women do?

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