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Stop The Resume Ho’in

By CocoaDiva on Apr 04, 2009 with Comments

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Put Down The Magnifying Glass

I’m sorry,  I can’t take it any more.   All this resume ho’in has to stop.  I am so tired of both men and women complaining about situations they willingly entered into due to their own ignnorance.  I will provide you with two scenarios:

Case A

“James,” is tired of women taking him for his money.  He claims he can’t find a good woman to save his life.  He b*tches and moans about how the women he dates are worthless and laments about how he could never wife any of the women ends up stumbling over.  However, James is frequently heard saying the following statements:  “I am a young and powerful professional,  I have a house, like 2 cars, I went to an Ivy League school, I have two degrees, I make like 6 figures……etc etc etc.  James is frequently heard spewing all of his resume stats somewhere during his first time meeting a new woman.  To me, it sounds like the teacher and Peppermint Patty….wooowaaawaawaaa.   James acts like he is Prince Hakim and the royal rose petal throwers from Zamunda are supposed to monitor his every move and also keep stacks of his resumes on hand to staple to his forehead  and to slap random women with his wallet upon his entrance into a room. 

Case B

“Sandra,”  claims she can’ t find a good man.   Everywhere she goes, she claims she meets losers or guys who are not on her “level.”  Now, she has stats of her own.  You know two degrees, never married, no kids, great schools, great salary, good figure…blah blah blah.  The problem is she only goes looking for men with stats like James.  She has a list a mile long and acts as if every potential date is an interview for a new job position.  If dude even mentions that he is “in search of” himself, not degreed, or does not meet some criteria on her list he is promptly dismissed with a grumble and irritated faces.   It is as if she couldn’t begin to consider a potential dating candidate who doesn’t match up with her pre-determined characteristics. 

Bottom Line

Both James and Sandra are alone.  I am soooooooo tired of mofos complaining about situations they brought on themselves. 

James can’t complain about women taking him for all he had when that resume on 28 font was how you hooked them.  All that self importance is what hooked that woman who wanted you for your paper.  How do you expect her to eat Top Ramen when you promised her oysters on the half shell and lobster? 

And Sandra, there are other fish in the sea.  When you limit your dating criteria to your long list of he must haves or only date Ivy Leaguers or Greeks you are significantly widening your pool.

I understand wanting to be equally yoked and matched.  I can’t stand it when you throw out your stats and get pissed when people just use you…..you wanted them to know about your degrees and money right???  I am not saying date the garbage man….but damn open up the flood gates a little.  Cherry pickin stats will get you nowhere.

What do you think about resume ho’in?

Are you a resume snob hoe?

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  • EJS
    Why can't James and Sandra get together? Is that too much to ask?
  • K.I.M.
    I'm on the fence. In James case, I say cheddar attracts rats...meaning if you put forth the materiality, a materialistic person will be attracted to it. In Sandra's case...I still don't think she needs to date the McDonald's worker with whom she has a lot in common. She perhaps needs to check out non-black men (although, truth be told, non-black men don't necessarily covet black women).

    I agree that it's not necessary to orally present your resume. It will speak for itself. However, we all have standards. Why do I want a college educated man? Because it's something I truly value. Why do I want a man driving a decent car (doesn't have to be luxury...but shouldn't be a 1992 hoopty)? Materialistic things such as cars/houses are by products of a person who has worked hard and succeeded. I'm attracted to the core qualities and the materialistic things are simply fruits of labor.

    What I find is that most men/women I see are equally yoked. However, there is a total lack of physical attraction with one party. The men want the pretty, dumb girl for sex. The women want the Boris looking fellow who is financially stable. (Ie men want to procreate, women want security).

    My main resume snobbing tendency is that I'd prefer a dude who went to a non-black public university (ACC/SEC ect). Clearly living in the mecca city of all black colleges, I don't make it a requirement, it's just icing on the cake when I can talk about the ACC/SEC with my man boo.
  • swiv
    "She perhaps needs to check out non-black men (although, truth be told, non-black men don't necessarily covet black women). "

    some of us do

    :party

    oh yea, boo the SEC/ACC.

    it's all about 3 yards and a cloud of dust.
  • swiv
    i see nothing wrong doing what james is doing. he just needs to quit dating women who don't have anything going for themselves. and in today's world, there's plenty of women who have stuff going for themselves.
  • swiv
    wait, lemme rephrase that. i don't see anything wrong with being proud of his accomplishments. but i wouldn't normally be touting that stuff just because. it's more of a conversation piece. it's just good to know your worth and what you bring to the table.
  • CJM
    I think about friends I've made in the past few years. You know, post attaching of random letters behind my name. These are people who tend to have similar interests as me. They may or may not have extraneous letters and titles. They may or may not own a home or 2 cars. They may or may not vacation in (fill in the blank with the new hot spot). But we click and we don't run out of stuff to talk about or do etc. The above mentioned signs of success don't all apply to me so why in the world would I not talk to someone because he doesn't fit that mold? A mate is a friend so why not choose a date or a mate the way that you choose friends?
  • I think we must have both been drinking the same wine today, because we both wrote about similar topics.
    http://richbrand.wordpress.com/2009/04/04/good-...
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