“Why didn’t Idris trust his wife enough to tell her about the stalker. If you trust your mate, don’t you trust them enough to tell them the truth?

Yes and no. In a way, many men feel that if we can handle the situation without you all knowing, then we can save some introduced drama/insecurity.”

This is a good point; also men don't expect to be the ones getting sexually harrassed so they don't really know what to do. If a man makes unwelcome advances toward a woman that way, she'll call the police, spray him with mace, kick him in the junk, etc. But would a man do all that? Probably not (where would he even kick?) and if he did the law probably wouldn't take him seriously, and he'd end up being the bad guy.

and, I gotta admit if my husband came home and told me some crazy naked chick tried to wrestle him to the ground, I might go find her and set her on fire. That is another thing a man may be trying to avoid by keeping his mouth shut…

“Why didn’t Idris trust his wife enough to tell her about the stalker. If you trust your mate, don’t you trust them enough to tell them the truth?

Yes and no. In a way, many men feel that if we can handle the situation without you all knowing, then we can save some introduced drama/insecurity.”

This is a good point; also men don't expect to be the ones getting sexually harrassed so they don't really know what to do. If a man makes unwelcome advances toward a woman that way, she'll call the police, spray him with mace, kick him in the junk, etc. But would a man do all that? Probably not (where would he even kick?) and if he did the law probably wouldn't take him seriously, and he'd end up being the bad guy.

and, I gotta admit if my husband came home and told me some crazy naked chick tried to wrestle him to the ground, I might go find her and set her on fire. That is another thing a man may be trying to avoid by keeping his mouth shut…

Would you have left the hospital with your partner when all the glaring evidence points to them having an affair? Ie Could you step out on faith?

I firmly believe that in relationships, you have to see issues through. She should have dealt with him and the situation until the truth came out (which would have had to happen seeing as though the cops were involved.) Now I am not saying turn a blind eye, but don't hastily dip out on a situation just because you are angry. (Both men and women.)

Would the idea of having a young hot member of the opposite sex serving as your mate’s assistant bother you? Would you worry about them cheating on you?

For me, I think the bigger issue with her was that Beyonce met him by being a secretary for him. That is typically how things work in insecure relationships. Basketball players' wives don't want them around groupies cause they were once groupies. People who meet on the internet don't want their mates to be on the internet cause that's how they met. I call it “situational insecurity.”

But to answer your question, as a man I wouldn't be worried as much as I think women would. For me (showing my arrogance) I feel that if my woman messed around with anyone else other than me, than she is losing out. I'm too sexy for her to risk. (And vice versa.)

Why didn’t Idris trust his wife enough to tell her about the stalker. If you trust your mate, don’t you trust them enough to tell them the truth?

Yes and no. In a way, many men feel that if we can handle the situation without you all knowing, then we can save some introduced drama/insecurity. Had he told Beyonce' about it in teh very beginning, she would have probably started showing up to his job more often just to “see what this bitch is up to.” (Direct quote from my ex in a similar situation.) We don't want to make our women paranoid, especially if we think we have it under control.

The problem is when we lose control of it, it is hard to discuss it once it gets out of hand. (But in his case, I think he should have told his wife after the bathroom incident and the naked in the car incident.)