I Wont Date A Woman Who Can’t Cook

 ”She can’t even boil water.”  ”Maaaan 90% of woman I know can’t do a thing in the kitchen.”  ”If she can’t cook she’s not a woman and I’m not dating her.”

I am really an old fashioned girl at heart.  I swear I am.  So, I still subscribe to that old notion that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.  I can’t tell you how many times I heard this phrase uttered by my grandmother and mother while stirring some hot pot over a stove.  Don’t get me wrong, I do NOT love cooking.  Please don’t ever mistake me for Rachel Ray or any other food network chef.  On a general basis I cook out of necessity when money is a little tight, I want to try a new recipe, or the spirit moves me. 

 However, as soon as I moved out of my parents’ home and started cooking for myself I started preparing my hook em’ dishes.  I can make a cobbler or lasagna like no one’s business.   However, according to most of the men I know, I am one of a dying breed.  

Why Women Can’t Cook 

1. Mammas aren’t teaching their babies to cook no mo’

2. Most women don’t care about cooking until they have a family

Of 2,039 people interviewed on behalf of the Potato Council, one-fifth of mothers said they rarely or never taught their children to cook.  In a different survey, 71 percent of respondents learned to cook from their mother and 12 percent learned to cook from their father.  Additionally, the survey reported many women lacked the confidence in their own cooking ability  and lack of time to instruct their children.

First of all where did this phenomenon come from?  Did the cooking void show up when women left their homes in droves to start working and thereby not having enough time to teach them how to cook?  Or, did these new working mothers try to challange their daughters to dream big and not be tied to the notion that they were doomed to be barefoot and pregnant while permanently chained to a stove.  Either way, recipes were not handed down and stoves across America went cold.  Bottom line in our strange society, men look sexy, creative and evolved when they cook.  Women feel less liberated, empowered and ambitious by the notion.  

Most women I know don’t care about cooking until they have a family and children to take care of.  Until we are married, why the heck do I have to serve your grown behind food when you know where the stove is just like I do? We both work long hours so why am I the only one tied to the hot stove?

Is our refusal to enter the kitchen hurting our chances at finding love and a good relationship? - I call bullshit.  I want a man to give me a real world no holds barred reason about why we must cook.  Not one of those, I know she can feed my kids reasons either.  You learn things when you have to.  Children don’t come with manuals and most women raise their children just fine with no prior experience.  Cooking is just the same. 

I am difficult on purpose.  I have no idea why a man would say he wouldn’t date a woman who can’t cook.  That to me is like saying I won’t date a man who can’t build a house or change a tire on his own.  That doesn’t make me not want to date him, so what’s up with this I won’t date you if you can’t cook madness?

In general, I don’t get what  it has to do with a dating anyone.  Why is it that as soon as you meet a guy one of the first questions he asks is whether you can burn in the kitchen?  I don’t start bringing up whether you can change the oil by yourself and then promptly stop calling when you tell me no. 

If the point at the end of the day is marriage, we are in a partnership.  If your boo can’t cook what the heck is with the man breaking out those pots and pans to bang out that new dish for the fam.  The whole thing makes no sense and it assumes that our only familial contribution is straight from a cookbook.  Hell Beyonce said she can’t cook a lick, but Jay wifed her and most of yall would date her in a heartbeat.  But I digress.  

Should a woman know how to cook for her man?

Men, would you date a woman that can’t cook?

Ladies, do you think it’s important to know how to cook to be a complete package?

Or is this an ancient expectation and you don’t want any of it?

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