Guess What? They Just Aren’t That Into You

By CocoaDiva on Feb 17, 2009 with Comments

Stop Wasting Your Time

Here is a little advice for the people struggling out there with situations that are not ideal. There comes a time in life when you wake up and realize, “Hey, I’m worth more than this and I’m not going to settle.” We are wired to work hard for what we want out of life, like jobs or possessions. But, when situations like money and love don’t work out as planned, it’s easier, emotionally, to justify and/or make excuses as to why we’re not getting what we feel we deserve. Whether it’s the attention of a man (or woman) , YOU are the only one who will suffer if you continue to cling to something that wasn’t meant to be.

I read the book “He’s Just Not That Into You” and have also seen the movie. Sometimes it takes a little outside perspective or someone to shake some sense into you. I have learned that ignorance is bliss and grown folks still have subscriptions. All the rationalization in the world won’t make them love you, or do what you want them to do …..if they just are not that into you. Don’t fight it, recognize the signs, and keep it pushing. Realize that there is someone who will love to do just what you need them to do. …because they want to. When I started realizing that he isn’t calling, treating me right, or following through because he wasn’t that into me….the clouds lifted and I stopped wasting time on people where I wasn’t number one on their priority list. I thought to my self, gosh, I wish I had done this years ago!!

A Few Good Tips from The Book , The Movie, and Some Tips Learned Along The Way…

Dont rationalize, as a friend told me once, stop focusing on potential and what it can turn into but focus on the reality.

If He Is Not Calling You…….He is just not that into you. My theory is Alexander Graham Bell made telephones so they work both ways. If he isn’t using this invention to call you…sadly, he is just not that into you. Electronic communication at all time will not cut it!! If they can’t take a few minutes out of the day to devote just to you…..they aren’t into you.

If She/He Isn’t Spending Time With You …… Time is the most precious gift you can give. If a person is not spending their time with you. They just aren’t into you. Every one has the same 24 hours and you have the free will to choose how to spend those hours. If you aren’t included in the plans…..they aren’t into you.

If You Haven’t Met His/Her Friends- friends are extensions of ourselves and they are often times as important as family. Hey, friends are here to judge you as a romantic partner and place you under the microscope. If they haven’t put you on the witness stand, then you aren’t important enough yet and they aren’t into you.

If You Keep Getting Excuses -If they keep making up random excuses about why they can’t hook up with you, they seem suuuuper busy, their work is taking all 24 hours, or something is ALWAYS more important than you….they aren’t into you. God made someone smart enough to create text messages, GChat, AIM and the like so people can hit you up at random free moments in the day. Also, saaame 24 hours, if you aren’t important enough to get some of those hours….keep it pushing

You Don’t Have A Magic Stick/Va -JayJay – guess what, every man and woman has one. Yours isn’t magic. As a friend once said, “Please don’t subscribe to Sleep With Them Till They Love You Monthly.” Everyone can get some buttcheeks bootay if they want some. What about you sets you apart from everyone else? If you can’t answer that question, neither can they ….and they just aren’t that into you.

The Most Important

They Tell You They Don’t Want A Relationship – If they tell you this, its the truth BELIEVE IT, they aren’t lying, you aren’t Tinkerbell, and no magic pixie dust, magic sex, cookie baking, shopping trips, or new hot XYZ will make them want you to be their boo. No you won’t meet their parents, no you won’t be the sole person in the situation. We are grown and this all goes back to saying what you want. If a person has the forthright honesty to say what they want out of life right now, for God’s sakes, LISTEN!! If it is not what you are looking for, DIP!! Seriously!!

BOTTOM LINE

Never make someone a priority that only makes you an option.

Got any more tips for the masses?

How do you know they aren’t into y0u and it is time to chuck the deuces??

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