The Married/Engaged/Taken Holler

I need some assistance understanding a dating issue. Why do some people in committed relationships work so hard to avoid their commitment in public? Let me give you some examples.

Example A: Mr. Married Man shows up at a party with his boys without his wedding ring, shakin’ it fast and pushing up on any woman who will listen to what he has to say. His boys ignore his actions and even point out a few girls he should spit some verbage to.

Example B: Ms. Engaged sees an old boyfriend in the streets. They share a pleasant conversation and catch up on old times. When asked about her current relationship status, Ms. Engaged tells her ex that she is in a situation and “it’s nothing serious.” Ms. Engaged takes her ex’s phone number and promises to call.

Example C: Mr. Committed Relationship has a fight with his girlfriend and decides to go out on the town. He spies a beautiful woman at a nightclub and they exchange numbers, as he tells the woman he is single. Mr. Committed Relationship later makes up with his girlfriend but continues to maintain his single status with Boo #2 (so he has an entree with a lil something on the side).

In all three examples these men and women both are in a defined and committed relationship situation.  However, when called to the carpet about their situations, they either deny it,  pretend it doesnt exist and proceed to holler at another person.

Why is this?

The worst example is that of the married person.  Time and time again I have seen both men and women deny marital situations, hide rings and seek comfort outside of their marriages.  Their friends look the other way, cover for them, and help build up a web of lies so the married person won’t get caught.  Why?

Many people I know say they are single until they are married so you can still holler at whoever you want.   But how fair is that to the person who they are engaged to or in a relationship with?  Don’t they deserve to know that their partner is unsatisfied and still trying out contestants?  Why even be committed at all if that is the case?

Thoughts? 

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