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The Dating Rotation: Who’s On Your Team?

By CocoaDiva on Nov 14, 2008 with Comments

Have Your Cake And Eat It Too?

How many folks do you have on deck?  Is there such thing as dating too many people? 

I used to think that this was a problem just shown by men with the attention spans of fruit flies powered by the Energizer Bunny in the front of their saggy jeans.   However, women have wizened up and are “dating around” too.

When men are growing up, they play PeeWee Football and learn a little teamwork in Little League.  They also learned the value of playing your best talent and having a good rotation, a skill best used when they grow into men and join the dating pool.  This idea has been passed along to women and now everyone is running their own Fantasy Football League of dating. 

Everyone has their starting lineup of MVPs, then Second String, who like you just a little more than you like them, and finally the Romantic Replacements, who are kept in a holding pattern and warming the bench singing “Put Me In Coach”

The Lineup

MVP’s usually provide mind blowing sex, or have that it factor making them stunna material.  You just want to give them a shoe deal or let them have a movie deal or something every time you see them.

Second String players are your back ups when the MVP has cussed out the coach, blown out their knee, or for some reason are our on a Bye.  They have a twinge of MVP quality, but something in their game hasn’t fully developed in the playbook.

Bringing up the rear are the Romantic Replacements- these are the pinch hitters, or bench warmers.  When the MVP is not returning your calls and Second String is out of town, guess who is on deck??  Romantic Replacements are hungry and will drop everything for a little bit of playing time with hopes to get their talent showcased. 

Teams Aren’t Cute -There Is Such A Thing As Dating Too Many People

Talent Development Is A Must  – How can you ever learn about anyone if you never really focus on one person?  If you find an MVP why not focus on that talent and develop it?   Everyone is going to have their faults.  You are not perfect and neither are your dates.  If you keep splitting up your time, how will you ever learn about anyone?  You might diversify your stocks..buuut..that option might not be the best look in dating

One Man/Woman’s Romantic Replacement is Another’s MVP – You usually know within a few dates if you could see yourself with a person.  Stringing along someone with no chance at playing in the big leagues is lame.  You are like that kid on the playground that refuses to share a toy because you might want to play with it later.  Grow up.  Focus on the Big Leagues and quit feeding people pipe dreams and playing with their emotions. 

Umm AIDS and STD’s Are Real – Don’t Let Magic Johnson fool you.  Sex with a bunch of random people lets you end up on Maury or headed to the pharmacy.  Both are not a good look. 

 Karama’s A B*–H …..Don’t Piss Her Off.

Thoughts?

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  • eXclusive
    How did I miss this blog?! I agree with the brother who posted above me. Either it gets old or maturity sets in. I've done the team thing for much of my 20s; the closer I inch toward 30 the more juvenile (and tiring) the whole concept becomes. I've still got some old benchwarmers and even some MVPs trying to win over my affections but I've outgrown them and the "game". I've got a winner on deck who I'm focusing all my interests on and the feeling seems to be mutual. Suffice it to say, know when it's time to retire from the game and get your mind right.
  • Two things:

    No matter how much you try to perfect the "team" concept , it will always self destruct in some form. No matter if your rotation is 3 or 13 eventually all players will come to a point where the "ring" is the most important thing at the moment, and if ur doing the team thats definitely a no go. T

    he team thing should be like your favorite Tapas place order up the menu before you develop your pallet. Once you do just take a bigger portion of what you like?

    and 2 from a pure numbers standpoint, If every 1 man only dated 1 women, there would be way more unsatisfied customers than now because of the apparent shortage.............
  • swivel
    i don't ask questions i don't wanna know the answer to. that's what background checks are for. i had a starting 5 and some bench players back in the day. if i'm single, max 3 maybe 4. one is the favorite, the others are back-ups.
  • smartenup
    Interesting article. I like the play on words (pun intended). What if you meet a single black male that only dates monogamous and you are feeling him. If he shares his past with you and your past exploits puts him to shame (something like 3 to 1). What happens if he ask you about yours, do you lie or tell the truth? And what if you had a team and he had way more sexually partners than you. Do you judge him?

    Just a question for the ladies.
  • I have never commented before but I am an avid reader. I date this way for many reasons many one being I am young and I just don't have time to wait for one of them to get off their period. On many occasions I tell these guys they are not the only one. This is not to say I sleep with them. Most of the time the only thing I may do is kiss but that is about as far as I go.
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