Help – My Girl Is Letting Herself Go

By CocoaDiva on Oct 07, 2008 with Comments

Things just ain't the same

When you first started dating she used to walk around in thongs and fancy lingerie, she went to the gym like 5 times a week, she never slept in her headrag, sweatpants were never worn, she cooked for you, and was always fly.

Now, you can’t get her out of those hole-filled sweatpants, she walks around in her rag, she has started to gain a little weight, and she never wants to go out any more, and granny panties have replaced those thongs and boy shorts you used to love. What gives? What happened to that sex kitten you fell in love with?

Basically, she got comfortable. She got comfortable with you and your interactions with one another. She isn’t worried about those other girls she was competing with when you first met. She knows she has you. If she just brings out that outfit from Frederick’s one good time she knows you are puddy in her hands. Often times, she doesn’t realize that things are as bad as you feel they are because face it….you let yourself go too. You don’t clean up like you used to, you aren’t in the gym either, your swagg-o-meter is dipping into that of a 14 year old boy who sprays on AXE to cover up his BO…..and face it those worn out boxers are not a good look.

So what can you do about it? How can you help bring sexy back for the both of you?

Weight – Face it, no one can do without the gym, unless you have the metabolism of Superman. Suggest that you are feeling a little sluggish and are looking for a workout partner. Plan a workout that the both of you can share and set up gym dates. Both of you can meet at a certain time at the gym and get it cracking. I guarantee she won’t knock your hustle and if you both keep up the good work she will get addicted to the gym again when she sees the results.

1. Eat Better -Get rid of the junk food and say you want to eat better. You aren’t getting any younger and the pot belly of your forefathers is staring you right in the face. Pick out some healthy recipies on line and YOU get in the kitchen and whip up a low cal/ high protein meal for the both of you. Ask her if she wouldn’t mind fixing or trying out some of the new healthy recipes. Go grocery shopping together and get some of the fatty stuff out of our cabinets.

Sexy Gear – Go shopping with her one day and then swing by Vicky’s or Frederick’s and pick out a few things you want her to model for you. Compliment her about how sexy she looks and then pick out a few to try out at home. She will feel better about her sex appeal to you and will want to model them for you at home. Gently suggest you miss her walking around in those thongs and tell one of your favorite stories that you remember about seeing her in the sexy gear. I guarantee she will go buy a few new pairs after story time.

1. Compliments go a long way – have you told your girl how sexy she is when she goes to work or when you go out for a night on the town. Everyone needs positive reinforcement. Humans are not far off from dogs in this respect we respond well to positive comments from others. If you congratulate or praise us when we do something right. We are guaranteed to do it again for more praise. Tell her you like those shoes or that new dress she bought. Tell her you love it when she wears your favorite dress. We eat that stuff up.

Wearing the Head Rag or Sweat Pants – Sorry guys, this may not be one you can change. We like to be comfortable just like you do. No one says anything when you lounge around in your sweats after work when the suit comes off. So let us have our pants. As far as the headrag is concerned, yeah we probably fooled you in the beginning. We weren’t sleeping over at your place every night so a night or two without a rag wouldn’t do great damage to our hair. But no protective covering on our hair at night is a definite no -no. If you like your girl’s hair the way it is and don’t want her hair to become 2 inches long then leave the head rag alone. You use your rag to make your waves spin…we use ours to grow out and protect our hair.

If you want taco meat on your head…cool. However, we worked long and hard to get our hair just right…..the rag stays.

So instead of hitting the streets or just plain complaining….do something about it and help your girl realize what you feel is missing.

Ladies what do you want men to change….or where are they slippin?

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