Dear Raven, Stop Lying About Your Size

Size 12?

I was reading a few blog posts about Raven Symone today and came across her MySpace blog post from October 19, 2008 as posted on the Evil Beet. 

Raven states ” ID LOVE IF THE INDUSTRY COULD ONE DAY UNDERSTAND THAT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OBESITY AND FAT AND THICK AND THIN AND SICK. I AM A THICK GIRL, I HAVE NEVER BEEN OVER A SIZE 12, I CAN RUN, AND I TRY MY BEST TO EAT RIGHT ALL THE TIME. I AM NOT THE TEXT BOOK WEIGHT THAT THEY SAY I SHOULD BE, BUT EVERYDAY I HAVE MY OWN PERSONAL STRUGGLES, AND I THINK THAT PEOPLE NEED TO RESPECT THAT.”

Raven, I respect your stresses, the camera adding weight, and people like me scrutinizing you without knowing your struggles.  What I can’t get with is you lying about weight.  Sweetie, you are no longer a size 12.  Let the lie go, we all can see you are gaining weight…and its alright.

We are all guilty of it.  Little white lies we tell ourselves get us into trouble when we are trying to lose weight.  It starts when we fudge the truth a little bit about how much we ate.  “I only ate half the sandwich, and a little bit of fries, that won’t hurt my weight loss.  Then you start lying about what size clothes you are wearing.  “I’m only going to be a size 12 for a minute, I will hit the gym tomorrow.”  As the sizes increase, so do your lies.  You start to ignore sizes in the store or buy clothes that are cut slightly larger to make yourself feel better.  Then you lie about your weight on your drivers license.  Then you start calling yourself thick when you are really fat to make yourself feel better.  Once you start lying to yourself about your size and what you are eating you start a downward spiral that can be very difficult to stop. Did you ever stop to think that the reason you can’t lose weight is because you are lying about how much you have to lose. 

Here is a fact from a recent survey where folks were lying about their caloric intake. The folks in the stuy lied and said they thought they were eating 2,000 calories, they were really eating 2,200 calories. Do that for 18 days, and you’ll have overeaten a whopping 3,600 calories. That’s a whole extra pound of fat. Your mamma told you lying gets you in trouble. No wonder its so hard to lose weight!!!!

Think about it, you want to be a size 10 and you tell yourself you only have to lose 10 pounds to leave that size 12 or size 38 pants behind.   However, you really wear a size 14 and to get to a size 10 you need to lose about 20 pounds.  So you run real fast, eat a salad, and hit the gym a few days….and you start losing weight….but that size 10 ain’t coming.  Why?  Because you lied about how much you have to lose.  You then get discouraged about not reaching your goal go eat a Big Mac and a sundae to drown your woes.  (This is all relative, insert your actual size or how much weight you want to lose.) 

Why not just stop the drama now?  Accept your size and do something about it if you want to change.  People see you gaining weight and they are wispering that you ain’t no size 16, 14, 12, 10, 8, or whatever.

Whatever size you are own it, embrace it, and love it.  You can’t move forward until you love where you are.   Give yourself real goals, set a real plan and embrace the pounds you lose and the journey. 

So Raven do us all a favor, please look in the mirror, look at the tags in your closet, set up a plan and stop lying. 

Why do people lie about weight? 

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