Computer Love

It is relationship week here at P.O.S.H., so we continue with another discussion in this world we call dating. Ever since the creation of time, men have utilized the latest technological advances to better their hand in the relationship game. Almost everyone has an online profile with a social site such as MySpace, which is a place where you can leave comments, links, pictures, and videos, each of which can be used to express your unique affection for her.

Although officially Facebook is not an online dating site, many consider it to be one in disguise. Thousands of people looking for romance click on profiles to see if they’re cute, or if they have similar interests that might spark a relationship. The internet finally affords men the ability to think about what they say before they say it. Where a live conversation necessitates a rapid response, the internet allows men to really read and absorb what she has said before saying something stupid or missing a flirtatious cue.

So? What’s wrong with that?

Just one problem: You don’t know very much about this person.
You know that you have common interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. But a deep, lifelong relationship cannot be based on the fact that you both love Jay Z, your favorite book is Sun Tzu: The Art of War and you’ve both seen Love Jones 15 times. It’s not enough to know that you both enjoy football and love cupcakes. There are other, deeper and far more fundamental issues that you need to explore before you can make any kind of long-term decisions.

Hmm….

So how do you figure out if the person you’re dating is really the right one for you? It’s actually somewhat easier than you think. I feel that there are four deal-breakers, four non-negotiable factors in finding your computer love.
Look for someone who:

1) Has Redeeming Characteristics
The internet can make anyone look good and appear flawless. How can you find out what is her core value? Does she lie? Is she deceptive? Why does she have so many pictures of her with a drink in her hand? Na’mean.

2) Is 100% Single
Let that marinate.

3) Has Good Communication Skills
In other words, communication skills (something difficult to appreciate over the Internet!). Make sure that you are both on the same wavelength, so that you don’t enter a relationship that is replete with frequent disagreements that later turn out to be misunderstandings. You don’t need that headache. Although minor misunderstandings can always occur, check to make sure that they are relatively infrequent.

4) Is Attractive to You
Physical attraction is the one, essential aspect you might think Facebook portrays accurately. Shout out to Clay Davis from The Wire but SHEIIIIT! Think again. People are not always the same in real life as they are in the photos on their page. While sometimes the person may be much better looking in life than in a still, many times it works the opposite way. If this happens, and you find yourself disappointed in your date’s physical appearance, don’t say I didn’t warn you. Ha.
Remember, just because you’re on a high-speed internet connection, it doesn’t mean you need to speed up the process with regards to dating.

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