Spice Up Your Sex Life
By CocoaDiva on Aug 28, 2008 with Comments
Sooo……its getting a little boring in the bedroom. You are not a Chinese pretzel and you breezed through the Karma Sutra at the bookstore and you put it back. (They must have been super flexible back when that book was written, who can do all that stuff?) What can you do to spice up the scene with your partner? Here are a few tips to get it popping again. Don’t get lazy get creative.
Get to Strippin’ – Men are visual creatures. If you have been together a long time, I bet you don’t bring out the sexy goods often. So he will be surprised when you do! Pick out your favorite song and if your shy try a test run in front of the mirror. If you are still uncomfortable, Strip Aerobics classes or the Basics of Stripping classes are popping up all over. Try out a class, burn some calories, and try out the lesson plan on your boo. Sex is about having fun so throw inhibition out the window, tell him bring out those dollars and let the strippery begin! I am all about keepin’ the dollars in the family. Just don’t strip in front of the game…you might not like the result.
Men, we like a good strip tease ourselves. My favorite strip scene in a movie is in Love Jones when Nina says “Strip for me.” There is no music or baby oil just sheer sensuality. Good times. So we don’t need you in a thong men….just give us a good sensory perception.
Say something dirty – You don’t have to get a potty mouth or sound like a porn flick. This all goes back to owning your orgasm. Tell him what you want and how you want it. You can’t lose. He hits the spots and you both get the benefit. Guys this way you can say whats on your mind and it doesn’t seem like you just want to get in our pants..even if that is really the goal. It takes the pressure off everyone when the person isn’t in front of you. Build up a little suspense. If your shy and can’t say things face to face here is your perfect opportunity to lay it all out there! Send an email or text message…text your last fantasy or start a story and leave a cliff hanger for further development when you both are together. I guarantee by fanning your imagination flames you will both heat up to a roaring fire.
Make it a competition- We are all competitive by nature. Turn an outing or a chore into a challenge. I went out bowling with a couple and they were really excited about the game. I asked them if they were both really into bowling like that. She said no…the winner had to give the loser specified oral sex time. Thats a challenge if I ever heard one. You get to enjoy each other’s company, make competition a sport, and every one is a winer in the end!!
Get out of the bedroom- the bed is the most routine spot to have sex. Try out new places in your house. Its ok if the positioning is awkward. The whole point is to have fun and try to new things. Think about different locations you can use: the living room, bathroom, kitchen, chair, or balcony (only for the brave and creative)…consider all possibilities, even if they at first seem far-fetched and silly.
Hit up the Naughty Store – add a little outside influence. Both of you can take a trip to the store and pick up something new to try out….it can be a new outfit for a fantasy, a toy, a book, or a movie. If you are already having sex …there is nothing wrong with taking a trip to the store. So get that negative picture out of your mind and pick up a new prop! There is nothing wrong with a few adult toys.
Make your Sex Playlist - Think of all the songs that put you in the mood. You will be thinking about the deed while you prepare the play list (include a good strip tease song while your at it) and imagining what you want to do while you set up the rotation. Set up your speakers and let the music play while you act out what you were thinking about all day. Get it crackin’!
Any other suggestions? What gets you out of a sex rut?
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